Before being a mommy blogger, I once feared of not becoming a MOTHER.
For the first time after more than 200 posts, I’m lost for the right words to begin with this blog post. I think I shall just start by sharing a short story back in 2010, the year I got married.
Did you know that a few months before I got married to my husband, I laid at the ultrasound clinic of the Medical City for a full reproductive health check-up? Call me proactive but yes, I did it. I wanted to be sure that everything’s A-OK and I am capable of bearing a child. Why? Because I knew that my fiancé strongly dreams of becoming a father.
I sighed in relief when I learned from the OB-GYNE that I was indeed in best form. If the result happened to be the exact reverse, a wedding would’ve not taken place. Call me melodramatic, but I was prepared to let him go. I would call off the wedding we’ve been saving up and preparing for all these years.
If you’ve read My Journey To Motherhood post, we’d all prove that the doctor spoke the truth. We had a honeymoon baby, now in the person of N. This is why I strongly view that all the children who are successfully born into this world, is a miracle.
Pride, Fear, Denial, Escapism, Humiliation, and maybe a little bit of Self-Pity. These are just some of the possible feelings a young married couple faces in relation to infertility. I couldn’t speak for the men; but I have a small voice as one of the women who has felt the anxiety and foresaw the unseen possibility of barrenness.
Sometimes I think which is a worse stage to be in for any woman–early impregnation or barrenness? The answer to this, I can only ask from women who’ve been through them. But one thing’s I know for sure, this marital challenge is real, there’s a need to help them break the silence, and provide them information, most importantly, bring HOPE.
When I received the invitation from Merck Serono to attend the media workshop for the Hope for Starting Families Media Awareness Workshop at the Gold Function Room of the F1 Hotel in Bonifacio Global City, I knew that participating in this would be a life-changing experience one. I will be sharing with you some of my Aha! moments during the workshop.
WHAT IS INFERTILITY?
Infertility is a couple’s inability to conceive within one (1) year of regular and unprotected sexual intercourse.
The resource speaker that morning was Dr. Anthony Marc B. Ancheta from the Medical City, a fellow from Philippine Obstetrical and Gynecological Society (FPOGS) and Philippine Society of Reproductive Endocrinology and Infertility (PSREI)
- Primary Infertility
— A condition or challenge experienced by the couple with conceiving or maintaining pregnancy.
- Secondary Infertility
–Secondary Infertility is the inability to conceive again after bearing the first child.
INFERTILITY AND ITS CAUSES
This is one surprising metric that I came across with, 25% of infertility cases are UNEXPLAINABLE.
FERTILITY WORK-UP :
Dr. Ancheta in his talk stressed the high importance of careful investigation of the possible causes of infertility before resorting into any medical intervention. He also mentioned that in every infertility cases, the participation of both parties (husband and wife) is also highly encouraged.
These are some of the factors to be considered before engaging in a work-up by a certified doctor in a reputable hospital clinic/laboratory.
INFERTILITY TREATMENT OPTIONS
These are 3 of the most basic / popular fertility treatment options that hopeful couples could consider:
Fertility Option #1:
Ovulation Induction + Follicle Monitoring + Timed Intercourse
Fertility Option #2:
Ovulation Induction, Follicle Monitoring, and Artificial Insemination
Dr. Ancheta advices for any hopeful couples, “Depending on what factors are causing the infertility, specialists begin with the least invasive and most cost-effective way of getting couples pregnant.”
I sincerely hope that this post brings hope to you who’s been pouring all you are in prayer to build a family. I also hope that this encourages you to break your silence because there out there–us, who are here to support you even in as little as listening. You can also talk to Fertility Philippines to know more about this campaign.
For some reasons, the word GOD just popped out in my head. Nevertheless, I believe He still HAS the final say about conceiving a child. He’s the Source of Life, of everything, and in Him, we can always talk to.
If you know someone who might be encouraged by reading this post, please let’s spread the word.
“Children are a gift from the LORD; a productive womb, the LORD’s reward..” (Psalm 127:3, NIV)